#17 Affair-proofing your Marriage in an age of Social Media ft. Dr. Scott Woolley
Updated: Sep 18, 2019
Dr. Scott Woolley, a marriage therapist who specializes in affairs, comes back onto the show to discuss the role the online world now plays in affairs and how to protect your marriage. He first explains what emotional affairs are (6:45) and the importance of setting up expectations and boundaries with your partner. (9:05) Grace then asks what motivates people to have affairs. (22:00) She mentions the podcast “Whine Down with Jana Kramer and Michael Caussin”, which can be found here. The book Dr. Woolley recommends, “Not ‘Just Friends’”, is by Shirley Glass and can be found on Amazon and Audible.
The two then turn to how social media and dating apps affect marriages. (31:00) One example is that it’s much easier for people to look at other couples and be envious and unsatisfied, which isn’t productive or even based in reality. Grace quotes Brannon Patrick with advice on how to combat that: “If you want a healthy relationship then you need to grieve the loss of the marriage you think you SHOULD have and step into the one that you are in.”
Their next topic is the differences in what men and women view as being unfaithful, and why those are. (41:35) The cited study can be found here at Deseret News. Dr. Woolley then gives his closing thoughts and advice. (50:20) Grace mentions a movie that gives a clear example of an emotional affair. If watching that play out on screen would be helpful to your understanding, you can find it here.
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