Search
  • Grace Jensen

#33 In-Laws Invading! In-Laws Invading! ft. Dr. Scott Woolley


Couples therapist Dr. Scott Woolley returns to the show to discuss how to deal with intrusive in-laws. The interview is preluded by Grace and Zach’s new segment “We’re In It With Ya” (1:20). They analyze their communication skills during a vulnerable and sensitive situation (8:20). Grace then shares Dr. Woolley’s credentials (12:05).


Grace’s first question is why some in-laws feel entitled to deep involvement in their children’s marriages and lives (15:30) Dr. Woolley’s answer includes the in-laws’ own experience with their in-laws (16:40) and insecurity (20:15).


The two then turn to how to navigate situations where the in-laws encroach upon the couple’s time (24:45). Dr. Woolley recommends that the biological child of the in-laws does the talking when approaching their parents (25:15). He also talks about what to do when only one spouse feels the in-laws’ behavior is unacceptable (27:05). A common trap is debating what is “normal,” when what really matters is how the behavior feels—does it feel respectful or disrespectful? (30:00) Relating to that, Dr. Woolley identifies a key question that drives most marital disputes (32:15). He also spends some time talking about the importance of being aware of cultural differences (36:10).


Next, in-laws intruding into the home is discussed (40:00). The nuances of how to talk to the in-laws are traversed again. Grace and Dr. Woolley then turn to dealing with in-laws whose opinions feel intrusive and controlling (45:05). After outlining strategies, he reminds us to keep perspective (53:30). Finally, Grace presents the situation of an in-law breaking boundaries that were set up for safety reasons (58:00). Dr. Woolley ends the episode with a message of hope (63:15).


Thank you for listening to this episode of the Newlywed Show! If you enjoyed it, it would mean the world to Grace if you did one of two things to help other people find the podcast: either screenshot this episode and share it with someone you think it would be helpful for, or leave a rating and review on iTunes. It makes a big difference! You can connect with the podcast on Instagram @thenewlywedshow and the show’s host @gracewjensen. Thank you again.

2 views0 comments